Is it my fault?

I asked a question last night "is no love enough for divorce?" I just read one of the answers that to me (I may be reading it wrong) says that it's a woman's fault for problems in the marriage because her drive goes down after having a few healthy children. So, does that mean I deserve the heartache and disrespect shown to me by my husband? Does it really happen in every marriage? Another thing that stood out to me in that answer was something along the lines of the husband getting the cold shoulder. I have not given my husband the cold shoulder. I still give in and have with him, but I do get irritated with him when I get home from working my behind off for 10 hours being up for over 24 hours because I had my kids all day the day before and I work the night shift and then I can't take a nap when husband gets home before going to work because I have to cook dinner because he refuses to lift a finger and even attempt to cook and he's on my case about getting into bed and